Forgive and Forget

 

Lately the word "forgiveness" has been on my mind. It seemed like in some way or another my conversations, readings and thoughts relate to forgiveness. A friend called me last week because she was having a hard time forgiving herself for something she had done. A few days later, I listened to a sermon by Bishop T.D. Jakes on forgiveness. The next day I read a devotional that talked about forgiveness. Later I began asking God what scripture I should read for The Casting Call. I was thinking that it would be most appropriate to read verses relating to prayer. After all this was a prayer line. But God had another idea. He led me to Isaiah 43.

I first read verse 25. Here God says that He's blotting or your mistakes and wrong doings and that He will forget all about them. How awesome is that?! Then I thought of something, if we are to have the mind of Christ (1 Cor. 2:16) then shouldn’t we apply this principle in our own lives? Even in situations where we need to forgive ourselves. As I read on, “for my own sake” caught my attention. What did God mean by this? I studied more and learned that here God is saying I forgive your sins not because you deserve it or by your own merit or even to make you happy, but to demonstrate my love, mercy and compassion. Yes, His unmerited grace. One commentary suggested that this was evidence of God’s great character. It’s really not about the other person or us in this case. Consider that for a moment. Our forgiveness of other people is not about them or for them. It’s for us. It’s for our growth, development and even freedom.

Then I was directed to Isaiah 43:18-19. Here God says don’t even look back. It’s done. You’re forgiven. Now move forward. It’s hard to do because we tend to focus on past hurts and the mistakes we’ve made, especially when we see the results of our errors today. But in verse 18 God is saying don’t dwell on the past. He tells us that He wants to do a new thing in our lives (v. 19). I like how The Message bible puts it – “Forget about what’s happened; don’t keep going over old history. Be alert, be present. I’m about to do something brand new”. Hallelujah! I love that! He says to be present. Yesterday is gone. Then God asks “don’t you see it?” Think about that. That suggests to me that if we aren’t present we can miss this new thing. I don’t know about you but I don’t want to miss anything God has for me! I’ll admit, it’s not easy to just move on but it’s necessary. Reading on in Isaiah 43, God says that He’ll make a way for you. Just ask Him. Then let Him do it.

Ok, so now you may be thinking that sounds good but how do I move forward. It’s not as simple as saying “I forgive you” or “I did wrong but I forgive myself”. I’ve said that but the pain and hurt is still present. So what do I do? Bishop Jakes mentioned this in his sermon, whatever controls you is your master. That includes unforgiveness. Consider that and read Matt. 6:24. Next, understand that it’s ok to be hurt, sad, angry and whatever else you’re feeling. You can cry about it if you need too. Face your emotions instead of ignoring or suppressing them. But when you’re done, focus on the lesson you are to learn.  Don’t miss the lesson. Then realize that you’re a better person today because of your yesterday. Finally, understand that God sets the standard for how we are to live and act. So don’t concern yourself with another person’s opinion or expectation of you. Remember the saying “they don’t have a heaven or hell to put you in”? That’s right. Only our God can do that and He says “I love you and I forgive you”. Decide today to free yourself from people. Finally, when negative thoughts enter your mind, counter them with the word of God. Say and do the following:

1.       I am forgiven. 1 John 1:9

2.       I am fearfully & wonderfully made. Ps. 139:14

3.       God’s love for me is unconditional and never-ending. Eph. 2:4-5; Jer. 31:3; Ps. 136:26

4.       Pray to God and ask Him to restore your control of your thoughts. He promises to be there when we call Him. Is. 26:3

5.       Read His word. Ps.1:2

Then focus on positive things. I hope this helps. If you don’t get it at first, relax and try it again. Forgiveness is a process. I hope this helps! Let me know your thoughts.

Love ya much!!

Metina